Bluffs 9 Nov 95
Student Council
Let’s Communicate
Bummy
David...Basketti
Chilocothe
Roger Fox...Teen Prostitution...Selling Yourself
You have already sized me up...you either like me or you don’t...I’ve done the same with ________________
Psychology Today: Decide within 7 seconds... 90% how we look .........UNTIL....we open our mouth...then it’s 99% how we speak
Vicious Circle: We want to make a great appearence but we can’t until we get more confidence but we can’t get more confidence into we make a better appearance but we ....... The quickest way I know to break out of that dog--biting-his-own-tail type circle: LEARNING HOW TO SPEAK.
FIRST STEP: Knowing who to please when you speak. Tony Compello: “For teenagers, who we are depends upon who the most important people in our life think we are” Hiney The Mule
The Best speakers I know care more about their audience than they do themselves...they care more about others. If you stop thinking about yourself and how you’re doing and start caring about your audience, you’re going to become a better speaker starting tomorrow.
Becky Smith................ Dale Carnegie: “You will make more friends in one day by being truly interested in other people than in an entire month of trying to get other people interested in you.” Whether getting a boyfriend, getting a job, or running for President. I know an employer...secretly judges by the questions they ask. (My Triopia job...totally unprepared) Mr. Rogers
Second: Have something to say, Say it, then Shut up and sit down. (repeat)
Third: Realize that your ability to communicate is the single most powerful tool you have. More people have been killed by words than by wars. More people have been healed by words than by doctors. More people have been made great by words than by textbooks.
Fourth: Realize that you are already an actor. The way you dressed today. The way you behaved around kids who you didn’t know. I’ve had a new student each day this week....I have to put up with it for one day then everybody’s been back to normal. One: an eighth-grade hunk...the girls.
Bobbie Joe...dyed hair, false nails, plucked and re-drawn eye-brows, a bra that gave her that “certain lift.” “Oh..I can’t act!”
Most of you cannot be yourselves because you don’t know who you are. Most adults don’t know this. . . have patience with them...have patience with each other.
Plato: “A young person puts on mask after another until he finds the one he likes. Do not laugh at him as he goes through this process. Love him until he has the courage to remove all masks and become himself.”
Remember: 1) Be careful whom you’re trying to please 2) Have something to say, say it, then shut up and sit down 3) Your ability to communicate is the single most important tool you have 4) You’re already an actor...once you find out who you really are, forget the show and just be yourself.
-----Bob Slavens..
The reason I love teaching speech is because it changes the speaker as well as the audience. Nearly everyone in this room would run out in terror if everyone else were to find out what they’re really like. But the truth: If everyone in this room knew what you were really like, you’d be the best-loved person in the room. Open your mouth, communicate, and get ready to be loved.